SILENCING THE “unnecessary” VOICE?
WARNING: As usual, lengthy-read ahead. Engage at own expense.
There have been many a scandal that have graced the grapevines of instant and socially viral media of late. So late that this piece is probably pretty obsolete. 😅
A purported murder of an artist from a neighbouring land, the not-so-newly waged war in the West with the myriads of contrasting opinions, conspiracies and propagandas strewn over it, the start of the potential fall of the Petrodollar, the emotionally berserk rantings of an oversensitive mother that somehow displayed the reflectively disdainful effects on her kid, a B40 thrashing debacle among others and so many more — and all these in the midst of countries still battling the Covid19 infections on the incline. Each of these, plagued with judgements, speculations, accusations, scandals, and opinions. Naturally, as with the order of all things sensational, there is always much to be said and discussed on the world wide web because it is an open market for anyone with an opinion and access to the internet. It is quite an exciting time to exert your brand of influence or thinking, if I have anything to say about it myself. And anyone who really knows me knows, I always have something to say about things. It’s both a strength and a flaw that my flesh is heir to. With the turn of age each year however, I have tried harder to refrain myself against broadcasting every little thought my opinionated mind can conjure into the vocal meelee. There is already too much out there that sometimes anything extra is no longer necessary (hence the title of this write up). I must say, the growing maturity has made that quite possible to maintain as I consciously make countless decisions to not share my thoughts that were itching to be let out on my socmed accounts after every drama or conflict occurs if I can help it – that, and also the fact that I have been busy tending to my own life dramas; not by any means scarce where a mother of four is concerned.
The truth is, society often finds solace and maybe even some form of wicked joy for some in dissecting the weaknesses and flaws of others, while they themselves wish to remain existing in oblivion, with their own reputation remaining unsullied. When I say society, I mean humans, all of us, you and I. The current society has way too much penchant for gossip, and the ease of tech-assisted platforms facilitated it further. We allow people as well as ourselves to dabble in tawdry meanderings of the humans’ collectively frivolous minds, making hot speculations and judgements and reproofs on other people lucky (or unlucky) enough to gain a large enough attention online being on mass display of drama of the moment. It is as if we are immuned to faults and often doing so with nary a thought about justice and even truths, when in fact the bigger truth is; we have all been imposters ourselves. All of us homosapiens, none of us perfect, each one of us hiding behind our own flawed machinations; the coffers of our sins brimming with our weaknesses, our shameful judgements, our ill-begotten decisions and past misconducts. We justify it often with the excuse that as one makes the bed so one must lie in it. Therefore, one ugly behaviour is open for criticism because they are foolish enough to let their moment of weakness gets recorded for the public’s voracious consumption. But we all have our moments of weaknesses, collecting list everyday in the abscence of a camera. Skeletons that are still kept in closets away from the lime light because we are either smart enough to keep the lids on them or God Has been merciful enough to help conceal. And yet, we forget about them and go about judging others as if we are without sin. I speak this as much of myself as I do of everyone else.
We are often less forgiving too when we have a decision to make about others, but when it somehow involves us, we insist that we are more than the sum of our missed conveyances and our ill-illustrated intentions. We are not wrong of course, but we must also be honest in that other peoples’ occasional (and unfortunate) display of humiliating flaws are not the sum of their characters too. I could have easily pick my sides and broadcast my opinions on every single one of them issues but now despite whatever opinions I may have formed, I largely keep them to myself or my close inner circles – people who have no choice but to love me even when they disagree with me 😂😂. I care less and less about what others think too. The cancelling acts in society has little effect on my sense of peace. It must be the inclining age but there is much more solace to be found in that state.
So more and more now, I leave my public opinions on silent mode. Silence does not necessarily mean impartiality or disinterest. Silence can signify prudence and a higher sense of wisdom. Silence in fact can be a powerful step back so you can see far enough to glance upon a bigger picture. Sometimes a deafening silence can be more powerful than even the most carefully worded opinion or perhaps even a single good word. Give the silence some moments to marinate and even the truth is sometimes found in it. Sure enough as the pieces of the puzzles begin filling more of the empty space on the jigsaw board, you find that the moments of silence you have accorded yourself has been a rewarding and even gratifying preservation manoeuvre you didn’t even know was necessary. Plus, often times, everything you thought of in your mind is a matter of perspective. They’re changeable, malleable, and are almost always never set in stones depending on the angle you approach them from.
Indeed, many a truths are unearthed over time while you practice your silence.
As more CCTVs are inspected, the better the chronology of a murder is constructed.
As more fake war videos are shown, more of the deceptions of the powers that be are unravelled.
As more honest videos are made, more scary own-citizen-killing operations are uncovered.
All these before you were proven wrong on an earlier broadcasted assumptions.
I mean, a case in point is the Depp-Heard drama that is currently unravelling in court. His silence has been a prudence and now when it matters, the truth is prevailing.
Just as well, because no one but The AlMighty has the whole picture and the truths do not just stick to a side. They come from many different and sometimes contrasting and opposing sides that it is entirely possible what you believed was right can over time in fact be quite wrong.
I guess the point of this status is this: I did not suggest you to refrain from having opinions. Merely that, even if you may have an opinion whenever you want, you just don’t necessarily have to share them publicly whether for or against anyone that could then put you at the mercy of other people’s judgement next. That’s the whole idea of silencing the unnecessary voice I guess. But on the perchance that you do, live to know it matters not what they think of you because you are more than the contrasting ideas you have with them. We are all more than one bad action that was recorded for judgement or one wrong opinion we form about others. If you have to be vocal, pick only the things that matter absolutely the most to you because you cannot stay silent – and because your words are more beautiful than your silence. More meaningful things than gossips I’d imagine ; like human rights, global warming and the likes of it. (I guess for me it would be the Palestinian plight. I usually cannot stop myself on that). Above all, if you can help it, do keep your silence a little longer than usual because it is true sometimes, silence is golden. Try it and you might very well find it very, very useful indeed.
On a different tangent, (because I am so good at going off tangent anyway), this article I am sharing down there is an interesting take of the Russian-Ukraine-NATO conflict from a different perspective; surprisingly not from the pro-Russian camp, but a Western ally and a NATO-insider. Granted, we may not subscribe to every dot and comma in the article but if anyone is honest, the article provides a lot of unbiased facts and objective observations of the conflict from the very start and the truth and reality we all tend to ignore (thanks to unscrupulous main stream (biased-poltical-backed)-media reporting of the Western world). In part, the article also asks very important questions that beg serious answers – questions that the world at large already know the answers to, to be honest. Because we can all see the bigotry, racism, oppression and the double standards that are strategically being exercised by those with power. And the US and NATO know if they were to also honestly answer those same questions, nothing they have to say will sound pretty for their own image. Oh well, I guess this is me not keeping too silent after all.
#LifeIsNotFairBecauseHumansArent
#OnlyAllahIsTheMostJust
#MindOurOwnSins
#ReflectOnOurOwnWeaknesses
#PracticeSilenceInPrudence
#SeekForTruths
#BeWaryOfTheTrangressors
#PromotePeaceAlways
…and…That’s me, using hashtags more as afterthoughts than its real intended use, as always. 😜
Until my next lengthy insignificant ranting; Happy Ramadhan Mubarak, stay safe and have great days ahead.
Much love!